A Promise to his Stepchildren

A Promise to his Stepchildren


I could write sappily about my husband for days, but I’ll spare you the eye-rolling and nausea and keep this short (“short” being subjective). You’re welcome.

My husband rocks. He came into my life when I was a single mom with two young kids. (You can read more about that here.) He is the greatest example of a loving, selfless stepfather I’ve ever seen. (You can read his advice to stepparents here.)

A few weeks before our wedding, he decided to write a children’s book for my kids and surprise them with it at our wedding ceremony.

His first draft was his final draft because after he read it to me, I wouldn’t allow him to change a single word. The book was gold. So genuine. So him. So them. Written perfectly for a four-year-old and six-year-old he adored.


On our wedding day, in the middle of the ceremony, a blanket was laid on the grass, the minister called my children up for story time, and my husband read to them. It was the most beautiful part of the entire day. And watching him love them so sacrificially and unconditionally every day since has been one of the most beautiful parts of my life.

So here you go, his book…















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The End. Or actually, the best new beginning a girl could ask for…


The End

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29 Responses to A Promise to his Stepchildren

  1. Alissa Boland April 23, 2017 at 7:04 am #

    Kristina, it’s like somehow we were worlds apart doing the same thing:) .. i was in Texas and anything not in Texas IS worlds apart, ever drive across it?!
    Anyway the update for us is both girls graduated from universities, happily married, working hard, and after the recent death of their dad, my ex, I’m grateful to say they are doing great. My ex, in the end,turns out was a better friend than husband… could have used that aha moment 25 years ago! I married their stepdad who they call Patrick because he told them he wasn’t here because he had to, he’s here because he really wants to be so the name doesn’t matter. He said he was jealous of all the fun we were having and wanted to play too. (They were 8 and 10 back then)
    Anyway, I LOVE that I ran across this and love FB for helping bring likeminds into the same state together! Wishing you the world, cuz Lord knows the world could use a few of us and OUR children who will never be leeches in society as long as we are still alive! Just my opinion… I think every mom should experience being completely alone, sharing a room with two small kids, and dreaming up creative ways to NOT spend money. The girls still say it was a HUGE room and it was always fun, especially those just-before-bedtime Go Fish games under their top bunk with a 3yr old who showed her cards all the time.
    ❤️-that mom who raised the bar on herself

  2. Teresa March 31, 2017 at 9:49 pm #

    Sadly, there’s not enough men out there that would step up and take on another man’s children, regardless how much he loved tbeir mother. This is exactly how it should be! It’s never the children’s fault when their parents divorce and often they have no say in the matter of who their mother remarries. Hats off to both of you! Greatest letter to stepchildren ever! Wishing you all an abundance of happiness!

  3. michele ortega March 31, 2017 at 12:23 am #


  4. Diane Bailey March 11, 2017 at 8:14 pm #

    Just found one of your videos on YouTube. Love your parenting bombs. I have a podcast and would love to interview you.

  5. Linda January 29, 2017 at 4:06 am #


    You are an amazing person. I have watched several videos, shared them and wanted to say you have inspired me to reconnect and remember that I am a good mom/women/ice cream experiment aficionado. Not a perfect mom but a nutella eating, crazy, fun, wine drinking, loving and kind one. You are such a huge inspiration, for being brave and getting out there. You are genuine. And your hubby and you are lucky to have each other–you make a lovely family. You are the youest person I’ve never met. 🙂 It’s good to be yourself in a world full of people trying to be something else. I’m blabbing away here but I just had to say something… thank you. All the best in everything life has to offer. Dive in, enjoy the stickiness lady. CHEERS!!! PS, have you tried melting nutella in a bowl and adding ice cream? In that order? I can’t even talk about it. 🙂

  6. Patricia January 20, 2017 at 11:38 pm #

    Thank you for sharing! That was truly beautiful!

  7. Chris Lynch November 19, 2016 at 8:50 pm #


  8. Knox November 16, 2016 at 3:08 am #

    Thank you for sharing! #awesomeness 🙂

  9. Shawnee October 7, 2016 at 2:35 pm #

    Beautiful. What a wonderful Man <3

  10. Shawn October 5, 2016 at 6:51 am #

    This story brought tears to my eyes! I’m a stepmom to two almost grown children. I’ve been with them for almost 12 years, and it wasn’t always easy. Because of the challenges we all faced, I wrote a book for stepmoms. That book is being published and is due out next year… Well, then I started hearing from stepdads that they deserve a book, too. So, while waiting on the stepmom book, I decided to write a book for stepdads. For both books, I interviewed stepparents to hear their experiences. After reading the book your husband wrote to your kids, I can tell you found yourself an incredibly special man. If he’d be interested in sharing his stories, I’d love to interview him for my book. I’m always looking for honest, heartfelt, and encouraging stories. I can be reached at shawn@stepmomshawn.com. Thank you for considering it! I wish you much love, laughter, and happiness on your journey.

    • Alissa Boland April 23, 2017 at 7:15 am #

      Not sure if you’d like our story, but it’s something that I wish more families saw.
      My exhusband was diagnosed with cancer, long story short,over the 5 years of his battle somehow there were many road trips back to Texas and many dinners and games where my husband, his wife and he and I soon blew everyone away with our friendship. He passed away July 1, 2015, but not before he thanked me for forgiving him and I told him he’d better put in a good word for me with God in case he questions “that one”:). He lived just long enough to see his oldest daughter get married on may 7, 2015.
      He was in a wheelchair but it would have been difficult in the grass to move so my husband’s uncle who happened to drive up in an RV happened to have a scooter, so on a whim my husband asked my ex if he’d like to ride around on that instead? There wasn’t a dry eye in the room as my daughter whirled around on his lap and my ex was able to have a little dignity that day. The song? ” I loved her first”

  11. angie t October 1, 2016 at 6:09 pm #

    I am so happy for you and most of all the children. Having a stepfather to love those children along with you is the most precious thing ever. I have two children and their biological father put us in a very bad situation in all abuse you can think of and when we finally got out alive by the grace of god and my now husband that was the start of our now best life ever. I have been with my husband now 8 years and married for 5 next weekend and my kids love their stepdad with all of their heart. They shortly after he was in the picture asked if they could call him dad and he said yes he would be honored and has ever since and now we are trying to get his 8 year old daughter out of her bad home situation. So I think it is absolutely wonderful that you have an amazing man to be a wonderful father and husband. congratulations to all of you!!!!!

  12. Jackie September 30, 2016 at 5:24 pm #

    I thought I was already in love with you guys, then this happened. Such a wonderful story on so many levels.

  13. Shawn September 30, 2016 at 6:50 am #

    Love love love…

  14. Liz September 29, 2016 at 11:52 pm #

    That’s so beautiful! Reading that, especially the “best new beginning…” part brought tears to my eyes. You are one lucky woman and from what I’ve seen so far a very deserving one too. You bring your children up to have morality and self assurance, a perfect combination and humour thrown in for good measure. They are lucky children and will certainly grow up to be responsible and wonderful adults with you and Philip (and the eldest two’s dad) showing them the way.

  15. Shelley Ballard September 29, 2016 at 5:08 pm #

    Love this!!! What an amazing blessing!!!!!

  16. Lekia Harrison September 28, 2016 at 4:58 pm #

    This was beautiful. God bless you and your family.

  17. Debbie How September 28, 2016 at 2:24 pm #

    Oh my goodness…that is one of the sweetest stories I’ve EVER read. You and your children are very lucky indeed to have two wonderful men in your children’s lives.

    I think you are very special and I love the way you approach situations…with humour. I grew up with strict parents in the 50’s and 60’s and it was the best life you can imagine. I always considered myself and hard-nose parent, but after watching your videos (my first was the day before yesterday), I was just being a good parent and not being their “friend”. I am their friend now, but every so often (as they now have their own family), they need me to step up with and reassure them they are doing a great job with their children and their husband/wife.

    Thank you for sharing your stories and giving us all a laugh!

  18. DeeK September 28, 2016 at 6:59 am #

    I came over here because I have been watching your videos on Facebook overtime one of them gets share (by eleventymillion people) and I decided I wanted to see them direct from heir course. Read this blog post of your which made me cry because it’s so beautiful!

    • DeeK September 28, 2016 at 7:01 am #

      OMG, so many typos! That will teach me to try and blog at the same time as I am nagging our teen into getting ready for school.

  19. Donna September 13, 2016 at 12:15 am #

    I always called my second husband and amazing step Dad to my four kids, (11, 9, and twins 5, when we got married) our Knight in Shining Armour. We not only loved each other, but we felt safe and looked after. I can very much relate to your situation. Thanks so much for sharing. It not only brought back happy and loving memories of that time, but brought tears to my eyes at how special your marriage is. Blessings to you and your family.

  20. Alexandra July 1, 2016 at 12:42 am #

    He’s a keeper.

  21. Terry Romero June 16, 2016 at 4:51 am #

    That was AMAZING!!!! You are blessed girl! Congratulations

  22. monica June 14, 2016 at 8:15 am #

    Thanks so much for sharing such a beautiful book! It is inspirational. I love the story and the awesome illustrations.

  23. Nichole June 3, 2016 at 3:35 pm #

    so beautiful <3

  24. Mariah May 28, 2016 at 2:48 am #

    I am so jealous of you right now. That story rocks!

  25. Kamil May 24, 2016 at 2:20 pm #

    Oh that was so sweet. I just cried my eyes out. Im so happy you got your fairy tale story. Keep up the good work. You are awesome

  26. Teresa April 9, 2016 at 7:15 am #

    Beautiful like a fairy tale

  27. Robert (Bob) Scott April 8, 2016 at 8:04 pm #

    So very lovely. Thank you for sharing such an intimate and heart felt moment in all of your lives.